Grieving is part of the process when someone loses someone they love. It’s a solitary process, but they don’t need to do it on their own. Depending on the individual, there is no time frame. It is not easy to console a friend who has recently lost someone close to you.
Whether a quick phone call, a text message or chat, an email, or an invitation to have coffee together, let them know that you care and you are there for them. However, do not be overly insistent and do not expect to receive a reply from them. They might want to be on their own, and let them be. One day, when they are ready, they will get in touch with you and be surprised by how much they appreciate you.
Crying is not an indication of weakness; it is part of the grieving process. You may be tempted to cheer on your friend or try to keep him from crying, don’t do it! If crying makes them feel better, just let them.
Be that good friend who listens. Often, the bereaved person likes to speak of the good memory of their deceased loved one. Allow them to remember those days if that helps them in the bereavement process. Listen, you don’t have to talk!
Navigating through life would be a bit difficult for some people, especially when they have lost a husband, a family member, a best friend, or someone so close to them. Offer help such as running errands, cleaning the house, doing laundry, cooking, helping the children and other practical tasks.
Important dates such as anniversaries, birthdays, and other events that may remind your grieving friend to remember their loved one who passed, let them know that you too are thinking of the deceased. Getting in touch with your friend can help reduce the feeling of loneliness.
There is no right thing to do or say to a person who is in mourning. All you have to do is hug them or show up a lot. Mourning can be so crushing that being with your friend, showing your love and attention is all that matters.
When you are living far from your friend, you could send them a care package. You can read more about it here.
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