Caring for Someone Who is Dying

Posted on: Jul 26, 2021 Publish By: funerallink

Often, we are put in a situation where it’s hard to accept the fact that death is coming. In these times, not only are you confused, you’re also dealing with feelings associated with loss such as grieving, regret, anger and more. However, such emotional responses should not be a hindrance to your delivery of care especially when a person is not expected to live more than a few days or weeks.

Here are ways of how you can show your love to them.

Let the Dying Person Take the Lead

Once news breaks out that there isn’t much time left, some people deny it, some people come as strong, direct and blunt, while others sweep the issue under the rug. The truth is, it doesn’t matter how family members and close friends feel. What really matters is the dying person’s wishes.

It is important that you listen to cues or what he’s intending to say. For example, expressing thoughts about missing a particular event, or not being able to attend a family reunion is a clear sign that he wants to talk more about the death but isn’t aware of how he’ll approach the issue. As family members, let him take the lead and let him decide of when to talk about it.

Be Clear that You Understand the Situation

In these situations, different people cope up differently regarding the matter. Some individuals are okay with being honest while others avoid talks of death. As mentioned in the first tip, you’ll have to let the person take the lead as this will steer the conversation in the right manner.

Playing dumb or not being honest as to whether you know about what’s going to happen next will make them feel disrespected and lied to. If they ask, just give them a brief and direct answer.

Avoid Regrets by Saying, “Please Forgive Me.”

Whatever kind of relationship you may have with the dying person, now’s the time to let go of regrets by asking for forgiveness. Grudges, disappointment and frustrations are bound to nowhere and the only thing you can do to set your heart free from negativities is by asking for forgiveness.

At the same time, whether or not the person has asked for forgiveness, it is best to take this opportunity to give them your forgiveness.

Appreciate the Person’s Existence by Saying, “Thank You.”

At the end of one’s life, we can all contribute or at least honor their existence by saying “thank you” to them. Such a saying gives them a sense of dignity and pride before leaving this world.

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