Just as you do through the sorrow of the winter holiday season, Valentine’s Day throws everything around again. Whether it’s the first Valentine’s Day after the death of a spouse or decades, it’s perfectly natural for you to miss them in your life.
Even if you don’t know, you’ll make it through Valentine’s Day. It may not look good, and it doesn’t matter. Grieving is messy, so let yourself be carried by patience and grace. Rather, let yourself feel how you feel about February 14.
Love is not lost, and we never forget. And neither would we. If you decide to visit their graves, write them a love letter in your diary, or paint if it’s your thing, remembering your loved one with an intention on this day is a way of continuing the bond you share.
Hide underneath the blankets with a cup of chamomile tea and a good book. Immerse yourself in one day of yoga, meditation, and diary. Take a day off, take your mourning journal, order a nice meal, and pour your heart out. There’s nothing wrong with it, and it’s all about, you getting the care you deserve.
Search online or call your local support groups to see if one exists in your area or can be accessed online. Before the pandemic, many of those groups hosted Valentine’s Day dinner in a local restaurant. Some of them hold online gatherings in February. 14.
Having alone time is good, but if you withdraw from those who support you, Valentine’s Day is probably the time to reach out. Plan a video call to share photos and memorabilia of your special person with others who share your grief. If you don’t want to connect with other people, that’s totally alright, make sure it’s a choice rather than a habit.
Many of us already eat at home, but if you eat outside regularly, know that during the month of February, restaurants are full of mourning triggers, mainly in the shape of hearts and flowers. On Valentine’s Day, you will see couples celebrate, which can be a distressing reminder. If you think this will just cause you pain, do yourself a favor and either order your favorite meal delivered, or, if you enjoy cooking, prepare it yourself.
It’s all right not to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Of course, it’s highly unlikely that you could argue that it doesn’t exist. Even if you treat it like another day, don’t be surprised if you still have a mourning reaction. Know in advance what you can do to take care of your feelings when they occur. What adaptation skills do you find most useful? Hold on to these practices and use them as often as you need!
You are likely to be bombarded with images and sound bites from Valentine’s Day in February. 14. Make up for the suffering you experience by doing self-compensation as self-care. Give yourselves words of compassion and mercy: “It’s rough, but I’m doing my best,” “To be free of my suffering and surrounded with love,” or “I feel that sadness because I love so much. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. ” “My mindfulness meditation for grief and sorrow is a useful tool for healing difficult emotions.”
Regardless of how you end up spending Valentine’s Day, please be gentle with yourself. Your grieving heart deserves it.
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