5 Reasons Why You Do Not Have To Broadcast The Passing Of A Loved One On Social Media
Posted on: Oct 5, 2021
Publish By: funerallink
Facebook went dark for approximately six hours. It was not only the social media giant that went off the grid but the entire ecosystem such as Messenger, Whatsapp, Instagram, Oculos VR, and Workspace. In a world where everyone seems connected, the major outage of Facebook is a huge problem, especially for those businesses that rely heavily on Facebook. But what is it for ordinary people?
While Japanese use Facebook only an average of 51 minutes per day, Filipinos are on social media at least 4.15 hours a day, according to the survey conducted by Hootesuite in 2020. The Philippine telecommunication companies are offering affordable data packages, and with Facebook allowing users to navigate its platform for free, this factors how often Filipinos go online. Going online often may not be a problem. The question is: how often and what do you post?
For many people, whatever situation they are in, their initial thought would be to create a post on Facebook. They post it online, whether at the beach, attending a birthday party, or even a funeral. But why? People post things online for several reasons: for awareness, to provide information, to get validation, to make your friends envy you, or to get sympathy.
But you can’t post everything online. Here are the five reasons why you do not have to broadcast the death of a loved one online:
You can control what you want to see online. Before the death of a loved one, you might probably see beautiful travel photos, delicious food, and inspiring quotes. With just one single post, everything will drastically change. The Facebook algorithm is so intelligent. It dictates what you see on your Newsfeed. So if you want to keep happy and positive stuff on your Newsfeed, then as much as you can, don’t post something that will make you sad.
It affects other people too. Whatever you see on social media or even on TV affects how you feel at the moment. It also affects how you live your life. If you care about your Facebook ‘friends’, refrain from posting that may affect their daily life.
It is so much easier to move on. Facebook allows you to revisit what you posted a year ago. It will remind you of what happened to you in the past. While it is good to remember our deceased loved one, it is unnecessary to be reminded every time. It would be easier to keep the social media away from your grief and allow yourself to move on privately.
You don’t need everyone’s sympathy. It is comforting to see our online friends sending their condolences. The truth is, you only need the consoling words and presence of your family, close relatives, and friends.
Be with your family, close friends, and relatives first. The reality these days, as soon as you hear someone in the family has passed, you instantly change your Facebook profile picture to plain black or candle. Instead of planning the next steps like booking a flight ticket, informing your subordinates so you can take a work leave, and other arrangements necessary. Put your family first and forget about Facebook for a moment.
Some things are beyond our control. But what matters the most are the things we can control. That is to choose how we live our lives, decide who to talk with, choose what we see on the Internet, and choose how we relive the memories of our deceased loved one.
This blog might help you to cope with grief from a loss.
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